Everyone needs to feel affection. To some people, it might be as simple as being verbally kind to their spouse or partner. However, some people crave affection like air or the food they eat. Think for a minute, is your spouse or partner one of these people?
Do not be afraid or reluctant to have a term of endearment for your spouse. Call him/her “honey,” “baby” or “sweetheart”. They will let you know which names they like or prefer. Some people end up calling their significant other by their pet name more than their given name. Try it and see what happens. Say “I love you” often, and say “Thank you” whenever your partner gives you a gift, says kind words to you, or do something really special for you. That doesn't mean that you can't say it over something simple like when your partner helps you with a day-to-day task like making dinner or taking out the trash. Telling your significant other that you love them at a moment like this also shows them that you appreciate everything that they do for you. The words “i love you” should not be used loosely as ascript to end a phone calL It also shouldn't be something that is insincere. When you tell your partner or your spouse that you love them, make sure it is at a time that you truly mean it. Say it at the most unexpected times. Did they tell a joke that made you laugh to the point of tears? Are they doing something that makes them look attractive without doing anything special at all? Let them know. Yourpartner will surely appreciate it. When having dinner or watching TV, tell your spouse how amazing and wonderful he/she is and how thankful you are that they are your partner. This could be the perfect time to tell him or her some of the things you wrote about them on your list of their best qualities. Give at least one or two compliments each day. Don't worry if your spouse or partner doesn't believe you. Sometimes people have trouble seeing themselves from someone else's point of view that is different from that of their own. Nevertheless, a sincere compliment will surely make your partner’s day. If you get into this habit, it could encourage your spouse or partner to think about how they show you affection. If you take the lead, it will trigger them to reciprocate the use of terms of endearment, saying I love you, and trying to make you feel positive as well. Being verbally affectionate is also important because it will give your significant other self-esteem that you, in turn, will receive when you partner or spouse says kind things to you.
Just like people need to hear endearments, it is also necessary to show your affection to your partner by using the sense of touch. Do you remember how excited you would get when you would hold your partner's hand or kiss your partner, back when you first met? Hug your partner often or hold his/her hands like you did when the relationship was still new. Put your hand around their shoulders or squeeze his/her hands. When you touch your partner often, your affection for him/her will surely skyrocket, and it will feel like you are in a new relationship again.
Physical touch can help your partner or spouse deal with various emotions and situations. If they are upset, an embrace can comfort them. If they are nervous about something, squeezing their hand can give them the strength to know that they have your support. An embrace or kiss can even be an affirmation of your love. If you find that your relationship is struggling, and your partner or spouse seems concerned that you might want to end things, show them that you still care. It's an old and often used expression but "actions speak louder than words”. Hold your partner tightly and let them know that you are there for them. These gestures may seem meaningless or unnecessary, but it is important to show your partner that you enjoy being near them. It will put him or her at ease and encourage them to want to make the same gestures for you. Once you can share these moments together, other aspects of your relationship will be even easier to obtain. If you are not sure if your spouse or partner wants you to touch them, the easiest thing to do is to ask. If you are both open with each other and know what your wants and needs are, being affectionate towards one another will be easy and something that you look forward to.
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