Morbid jealousy may affect a relationship to a certain degree. One of the most harmful effects of jealousy is that it can lead a couple to limit each other's independence. In case such kind of this occasion, people can lose the individuality and strength that once attracted the very partner who are now limiting them. Under such kind of occasion, only the person who feels limited will feel less attraction to his or her partner while the person who acts jealous may resent the ways in the change of their partner.Though harmful it may be, both of you can move beyond jealousy to maintain a healthy relationship.
Problem should be raised
You need to explain to your partner that you've
had a lot of relationship problems in the past and don't wish for a repeat of
those problems. If your partner really cares about you, he or she will go out of
his or her way to reassure you and you can get the relationship started on a
good footing. You have to make efforts yourself as if your partner loves you, he
will be able to talk you through negative feelings. With love and understanding,
trust in life can be regained but it takes two to get through this and you need
to be devoted to each other and sufficiently motivated to show each other that
there is no need for jealousy within the relationship.
Joint efforts should be made
It's wise to go through these issue together.
It actually makes a relationship much stronger. One couple who was having issues
came to me and wanted to discuss the pettiness of the arguments that they were
having. When the facts were gathered, it seemed that the cause was obvious to
me, but not to them. She had a self-esteem issue and instantly thought that when
he talked to other women, they were more attractive than her. This translated
into jealous behavior. We had to take this woman back to the time in her life
when all of this insecurity started. Once her husband understood the mental
anguish that she had been put through as a child, he also had a better
understanding of what things he could do to help build up her self-esteem so
that she didn't feel this awful feeling of jealousy.
Roots should be found at first
The roots should be found and made sense of
because this gives you a starting point and it is this starting point that
allows you to build a foundation whereby trust is not an issue. When your whole
life is unfolding and it is built on lack of trust - either in self or others
-jealousy will cause the relationship to flounder. However, when both parties
understand the cause of that insecurity, it can be dealt with to get the
relationship onto a more solid footing, so that jealousy does not become
something that gets in the way of harmony at a later date. If you have ever felt
that you are not good enough, trace it back. Find out when it started and why,
and then try to remake who you are based on the true picture of now rather than
a distorted one from the past. Understanding the problem takes you halfway to
solving it.
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