Gettign angry, combative, or whiny whenever a man wants to spend quality time with his friends is a sure sign of quality time with his friends is a sure sign of insecurity and neediness. So long as his friends aren’t a clear and direct threat to his well-being or your budding relationship, there shouldn’t be any reason for you to lose your cool if he enjoys spending time with them.
Even if you have an overwhelming desire to be the center of your Mr. McDreamy’s universe, try to exercise self-control. It’s a major turn off for a guy to have to constantly cajole, explain, and reason with his girlfriend just to keep his friends in his life. Over time, this sort of relationship conflict can tear away at a man’s pace of mind, especially if he’s really sold on you as a quality girlfriend and sincerely wants to make you happy.
Spending time with other men is a necessary part of a man’s psychological well-being. Even the man who loves spending quality time with you will require a healthy amount of time away from you to reconnect with his buddies and replenish his masculine energies (you do want him to have a healthy amount of masculine vitality right?). Time with the men isn’t merely just fun for fun and friendship. It keeps him sane, grounded in his masculinity, and far more capable to deal with both the challenges of life and the challenges he’ll face with his woman.
Yes. Spending time with his friends makes him a better man for you.
Historically considered the wisest man that ever lived, the Israelite monarch, King Solomon, once wrote that as iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another. Assuming his friends have some level of masculine maturity, his emotional development is highly dependent on his relationship with other men. Knowing that a healthy amount of time with the men is paramount to his character development, a high-quality man- one with firm personal boundaries - will not allow you to become a wedge between him and his closest friends. Making yourself a hindrance to his “guy time” is a very effective and speedy way to force a man to demote you to the “some girl I used to date” status.
If you’re dating a really sociable or high-status man, one who has a quality network of friends, instead of trying to compete with his affections learn to appracite him for the great improtance he’s placed in his male friendships. Many women don’t seem to truly appreciate how difficult it can be for a man to maintain meaningful adult relationships with other men in this fast-paced, achievement-driven age. This is especially true if the man you’re dating is a highly ambitious one. Based on the research done by Thomas Joiner, an academic psychologist, we know that highly driven men tend to sacrifice the development of meaningful friendships due to their intense focus on attaining great levels of economic success and power.
So with that little titbit in mind, consider that if your guy is a prince among men and is a valuable member of a group of imperfect yet endearing guys, don’t be a hindrance to his happiness. Instead, support his loyalty to his friends and try to be the one woman that truly “gets him.” Trust me, he’ll adore you for it.
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