When you are very young, you are introduced to all kinds of things. You learn all about how it feels to have a new toy. You learn all about sharing and all the elements of childhood that parents pass on to children. You learn to walk, to talk, and to express yourself, but there are also some very negative traits that you can pick up during this time. You may see others who possess things that you can never possess, and there are various ways in which jealousy can creep in at an early age:
1.My friend has more than I do
2.My sister always gets everything that she wants
3.Everyone gets better birthday presents
4.My mom treats my brother better as he is her favorite
These are all pretty obvious, and I could go on forever and come up with dozens of examples. However, all of these have one thing in common - the person experiencing the jealousy feels as if life isn’t being fair. They express this in a multitude of ways. A child may become withdrawn, may
take it out on people who they feel have more than them or may begin to internalize and build up a resentment that follows them into their adult life.
Someone in a relationship may believe that his/her partner is looking at other people in a way that gives the impression that they are interested in that person, thus giving rise to jealousy. However, jealousy won’t solve anything at all. If anything, it will make the situation worse, and the trauma of a broken relationship is usually followed by mental trauma and going into new relationships with the same mindset of jealousy.
The reason that this kind of negative feeling sticks is because all the things that happen to this particular person seem to confirm that the person is less important than someone else, and this causes self-esteem issues, which can only be resolved by blaming someone else or by some kind of action. In the school situation, this may come out as bullying. It may be that the bully has the biggest jealousy of the lot, but he isn’t going to show that to his classmates. Instead, he turns that jealousy into something even more negative and tends to pick on smaller kids that he knows he can easily hurt or influence. The reason that the bully does this is because his character is not sufficiently developed to deal with what he feels life is throwing at him. Thus, bullying seems to be something he has under his control and is the obvious way to get his own back on the world.
Jealousy begins with comparison. If you compare yourself with someone else, there is every chance that you may feel adequate.
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